Harness The Power Of Your Words – Tap Into Your Unlimited Potential: Understanding How You Are Creating Your Reality
We’re often told to look outside of ourselves and become what the world wants us to be. The truth of the matter is that the world around us is continuously changing. Finding ourselves alongside with it will be an unending search of fulfillment. What you should be doing, rather, is to look within yourself and understand that you have the power to create your reality. You can do this with your words. Harness the power of your words to create a story that truly fulfills you. Break away from what happened in the past. Move out of your self-sabotaging ways and tap into your unlimited potential.
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Harness The Power Of Your Words – Tap Into Your Unlimited Potential: Understanding How You Are Creating Your Reality
I’m excited to be here every day. I talk about something that I’m feeling into or that’s come up a lot lately. I’m going to talk about the power of your words, truly harnessing the power of your words. When you read this topic or when you hear harnessing the power of your words, understanding that you are the creator of your reality, I’m curious what comes up for you. I feel as though so often in our lives we give our power over to others. When we begin to understand that we are creating our own reality, there is a lot to unpack there. A lot of times most people are feeling as though or we’ve been trained oftentimes to look outside ourselves.
When we’re children, our parents say, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” I want to be an astronaut or I want to be a doctor.” We’ve been taught to look outside ourselves and truly from that outside world, create the world that we feel will create success or happiness. I feel that that is a fundamental glitch in the system. We are consciously continuously evolving. If we continue to look outside of ourselves for support and for our happiness, we’re taking the power outside of ourselves to check in with ourselves and say, “What is it that I truly want?” Maybe happiness for our parents was to have kids, a house and a white picket fence. Maybe that’s what happiness was. Maybe happiness for our parents was a job that lasted for 40 or 50 years in the same company and you’ve got all these benefits. Maybe that’s what happiness was. There is nothing wrong with that.Putting our happiness into the hands of what’s outside of us will take us into a long and continuous road of finding fulfillment. Click To Tweet
However, when we are consistently putting our happiness in things or people, whether it’s a job or a relationship or something outside ourselves, that’s when we start to have the challenges. That’s when we start to realize that whatever we’re putting our thoughts or our happiness into that’s outside of us, it is going to be a long road to continue to search for fulfillment. Oftentimes, that fulfillment never comes. If you’ve been in a place in your life where you’re like, “I’ve done all the things that I was told I was supposed to do in order to be successful, in order to be happy. I’ve been there, done that. For whatever reason, I’m still feeling that I’m disconnected or I’m still feeling not fulfilled.”
I speak to a lot of men. I work with men, for those of you who don’t know. In the coaching, oftentimes many of them have gone down the road of success that they’ve been told will lead them to happiness such as the successful job, the college, the relationship. They’re still feeling very disconnected and it’s like, “I’ve done everything that I needed to do in order to get to where I was told would lead me the road of happiness. Here I am feeling empty and unfulfilled in a lot of ways.” Oftentimes, depression creeps in because you’ve strived to reach to a certain point and for whatever reason, that point or that end-goal never brought you that fulfillment that you were seeking. What then do our words have to do with creating this reality? All of our words are creating a resonance. The words that we have, they carry a vibrational tone. They carry a resonance. If you say, “I hate that person.” When we were kids, we were taught not to say, “I hate.” If you say, I hate versus I don’t like, there’s a very different energetic tone. If we start to understand that, a lot of things when I work with clients one on one, I listen to their story.
We all have a story that we’re telling ourselves. We are telling ourselves the story that we believe to be true. We are telling ourselves a story that we believe to be true and whatever story that is, it could be, “I don’t have enough money,” “I don’t have enough energy. My body is sick. I don’t have the time to give to myself.” How many of you have resonated or told yourself that story that you don’t have the time? Especially when it comes to giving back to yourself or that you don’t have the money, especially when it comes to investing in yourself. You’re telling yourself a story that you need to give all your time and all of your energy to everyone else, and you don’t have enough to give to yourself. Therefore, that is self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is when you tell yourself a story that is not necessarily true. It is true only because you were telling yourself that story.
When it comes to rewriting our story and rewriting a story of wandering for and desiring something outside yourself to achieve or to create happiness versus creating the happiness within yourself, we have to start looking at the words that we’re using. If we’re telling ourselves, “I don’t,” “I can’t,” “I need to,” or “I should,” those are disempowering statements. If I say, “I need to do better.” That’s telling me the story that I’m not good enough. “I should do this more.” This is telling me the story that I am not doing enough. We sit here and we wonder oftentimes why is life happening in this way? It’s so important to realize that is also a very defeating way of looking at the way that you are creating life. We are all co-creators. It’s so important to become mindful of the words that we are using not only to each other but more even oftentimes more importantly to ourselves.You don’t create your reality from your past. Whatever happened is no longer here. Click To Tweet
What is the story that you’re telling yourself each and every day? When you can learn to see the story as what’s creating your reality, you can begin to change your reality. I know Dan knows this firsthand. Dan and I have been working together. The amount of change in transformation I’ve seen this human being go from is absolutely phenomenal. It’s like I wouldn’t even recognize this person if I would have seen him months ago and saw him now. It’s because he’s choosing to become mindful and to become aware of the story that he’s telling himself. From stories of disempowering thoughts which are often coming from our past and maybe even our parents to stories and words of empowering thoughts. You don’t create your reality from the past. Whatever happened to you happened to you. It is no longer here. If we continue to live in our misery of all the things that we did that we’re not proud of, that we’re not happy of, all the things that happened to us that caused us pain. If we continue to live in that old story, we will only continue to create that story for our future. It is in this moment that we have the opportunity to become mindful. It is now right here in this moment that we have the opportunity to become aware of the thought patterns, habits and stories that we’re telling ourselves, that may be disempowering us.
Oftentimes the clients who find me, I do a screening process. It doesn’t serve me nor does it serve my clients if they’re not ready to get out of victim mode. Victim mode is often where we live. We live oftentimes in victim mode of things are happening to me instead of I am consciously creating. You cannot change. You’re going to have a very hard time changing your reality if you consistently live in victim mode. My question to you is what is the story that you’re telling yourself in any way, shape or form, especially when it comes to our jobs or how we live our lives or our relationships? If there’s an aspect of your life that you’re not happy about or that you’re not thrilled about, I want you to be ecstatic about every part of your life. If there’s an aspect of your life that you’re not ecstatic about, what is the story that you’re telling yourself?
Think about your life. Think about different categories or different areas of your life. You have your romantic life. You have your work life. You have your family life, your friends life. You have your fitness life, this area and these aspects of your lives. Think about what area maybe you would like it to be or you know that there’s a next level, there’s a next version of yourself. Maybe it’s in your fitness or maybe it’s connection with your friends or your community. I’m a huge fan of writing but take some time and write down what the story is that you’re telling yourself.
When you take some time to write down the story that you’re telling yourself currently, you can begin to look at that story and say, “Do I want this story to be true? Does this story truly serve me? Do I want this story to be true? If not, what can I do to change it?” Don’t even think about, “I need to go get another job right away. I don’t like the story so I need to go get another job.” Think about even looking at the story that you told. For instance, for me this is a story that I’m working on and it’s a practice. Mindful Monday is a practice. We’re always going to find ways in which we’re self-sabotaging. I’ve had two stories.When you start taking responsibility and start taking action, you will see your life begin to change. Click To Tweet
One of my stories is I feel as though I don’t have enough time to work out in the middle of the day. My schedule is too busy and I don’t have enough time to work out in the middle of the day. I have to get it done in the morning. When I do it in the morning, I’m not necessarily always at my most fire. What a limiting story. It seems like a small story, but I’m telling myself I don’t have enough time for myself. Instead, I can look to say, “I have the power to change my schedule to where I can work in the morning. Make an amazing and super packed, get the energy of sitting and stuck and stagnation to empower myself in the middle of the day to do a workout. Then this workout is going to celebrate and fuel the last part of my day.” That is a story that I can change. That is a story that I can begin to live.
There are lots of stories, old patterns and habits and limiting beliefs that are passed down to us that are created from our past. It’s so important to realize what story am I telling myself. If I want to live a different reality, how can I tell myself something different? You have the power. No one else. When you step into that power, when you stop blaming, when you start taking responsibility and start taking action, you will see your life begin to change. We are all creators. We are all divine. We’ve allowed someone somewhere along the road to tell us something different, to take the power out of us. The truth is we are also powerful. We can all understand and tap into this limitless potential. It’s true. That’s a big reason why I do what I do. It’s because I understand this. I’m so excited about it and I’m so impassioned about it. I want to share it with you because everybody has the potential.
Imagine if we could all begin to understand and tap into and access our fullest potential and realize that we’re never against each other. We’re competing on the wrong team. We were competing on the team of I instead of on the team of we. What happens when we put more minds together who believe in love and co-creation and that anything is possible? We have that much more potential. We have that much more fire, that much more force. We have that much more creative juice, expressing and love to create whatever it is that we desire.
This is my message to become mindful of your words, understand and harness the power that each and every single individual has. The power of groups as well. If you’re a male identified human and you want to join Dan, myself and Anthony, Carson and Tomas and many other men, I hold the space for the men to come together to create, to consciously truly choose to step into their highest and best selves. We have our next online men’s gathering. If you’re interested in that, shoot me a private message. I can send you some details. We are growing a tribe of individuals who are continuing to expand in this way of truly realizing and recognizing our highest and best selves. I have a Facebook Live. Also, my podcast is on iTunes, Stitcher, Soundcloud. Thank you for being here. Thank you for showing your presence. Thank you for shining your light. Thank you for being an amazing beacon and choosing to step more consciously on the mindfulness path, so that we can all begin to create our own reality. Thank you so much for joining. Take care.